Healthy Comparison
Comparison is like a double-edged sword, it can either spur you forward or slice your self-esteem to shreds.
– being inspired by someone’s achievements
– can be incredibly motivating
– seeing someone you respect reaching their goals can light a fire under your ass
– can be used as a catalyst for personal growth and setting realistic goals.
– bad comparison: a recipe for misery
– focusing on what you lack rather than what you have
– social media: a distorted view that filters out struggles and amplifies successes
– you don’t see the tears, the sweat, the sacrifices—they don’t post about that.
– comparing your behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel
– jealousy, resentment, or even schadenfreude—taking pleasure in other people’s misfortunes because it makes you feel better about your situation
– prevents you from appreciating where you are right now
– solution: be mindful of when and why you’re comparing
– use comparisons to motivate and inspire
– set your own personal goals based on what’s important to you, not based on a flashy social media post
– remember, everyone is fighting their own battles, many of which you know nothing about.
– the only person you should be trying to be better than is the person you were yesterday
– ask yourself: is this making me a better, happier person?
– focus on your own journey: it’s the only one you can truly control
– comparison is the thief of joy
– it’s only natural to occasionally look at people surrounding, what they’re doing, how they’re doing it and compare yourself
– the key:
> to not let comparing yourself to others get out of hand
> to ensure that you are looking at relevant factors
> to ensure that you’re comparing yourself to others for reasonable reasons
1. Don’t Get Lost
Living authentically: aligning your life to your values and your most inner wants, needs and desires
2. Interrogate, Why You are Comparing Yourself to Others
– to discover areas for possible improvement?
– to see if you can learn from their wins and losses
– quite healthy:
> if you are able to be unemotional and strategic about your observations
healthy: “I’m going to work on not being so discouraged by setbacks.”
unhealthy: diminishing his accomplishments to make yourself feel better
3. Consider who you are comparing yourself to?
– genetics, body types or resources.
– ripe and unripe fruit
– can look for areas to learn from them
– shouldn’t put yourself up against them or feel bad about how well they’re doing
4.Ask Yourself Productive Questions
Scenario 1: Someone with a similar background and experience level is further along in their career than you are:
– Are they better or more talented than you are at this particular thing?
> spend time discovering and nurturing your own unique gifts, figuring out how to maximize them and analyzing if the company or field you’re in is the best fit for them
> get with a coach
– Have they made better decisions? For example, did they leave previous employers at strategic times while you stayed in the same company for too long?
5.Ignore those Lists
PR campaigning : a lot of people pay to be featured and publications use these lists as a cash cow
Healthy vs Unhealthy Comparisons – Good Things Are …
Good Things Are Gonna Come
https://goodthingsaregonnacome.com/healthy-vs-unhealthy-comparisons/
Healthy vs unhealthy comparisons. Comparing isn’t all bad. Like a double-edged sword, it can either spur you forward or slice your self-esteem to shreds.
The Healthy Way to Compare Yourself to Others
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Is comparison good or bad for you? – Think Better – Counselling
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Healthy comparison can motivate you and give you an example of how to achieve a result you want. In short, healthy comparison spurs you on to achieve your goals. Unhealthy comparisons focuses on unfair, unrealistic or unattainable comparisons to your ideal self or to other people.
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Healthy Comparison | Self-Improvement Daily Podcast
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